Hello my sweet friends!

So this is a bestie blog post — as in this is a “Sandhya and Katie Adventure” Blog post. 

I don’t think I’ve actually done one of these before, but here we go. So all of you who know me in real life know about Katie, who has been one of my best friends (best friends is a tier, not a person, remember that.) since 9th grade, where we have talked pretty much every day since then and still never ran out of things to talk about. To be fair, it’s easy to keep talking about things when you’re both delusional af, and you talk about your weird dreams, and your “I wonder if [insert insane situation that would never happen but if it did, it would be the best case scenario]” hypotheticals. Katie is one of my favorite people — she’s patient, kind, thoughtful, tenacious, wonderful, intelligent, creative, enthusiastic, passionate, and seriously one of the best friends that I could ask for … Now that being said, it’s time to tell you how Katie and I are also lowkey unhinged. Sorry, Katie, this may not have been the birthday post you had in mind, but uh, cheers.

This morning, Katie and I went to one of our high school friend’s baby shower, and seriously, it was the most wholesome event ever.

Now I’ve only been to two baby showers, and both times, the mom-to-be has been one of the actual sweetest people on the planet, and even just hanging out with them and being in their genuine presence makes me feel like I’m a better person and can be the best and favorite version of myself all the time. When you’re with them, then you’re immediately softer and kinder and happier.

But let me tell you something about going to baby showers — even with the fact that they’re incredibly wholesome and perfect and you’re grateful and so excited to be there — they’re so weird man.

Don’t get me wrong, they’ll be amazing parents and I am thrilled for them, but being literally the farthest way possible from that scenario, it’s like the family version of that John Mulaney quote where he’s like:

“Hmm, we’re not so different, you and I. You have your law practice, and me, I have all these f***ing markers.” 

So we walked in and we were literally the only two single people at this event and talking to a married couple who just finished traveling in an RV around the country to go to national parks, people who are finishing up their residency and planning their weddings, newly engaged people, people who are holding their babies and young children and playing with them, and people who are madly in love with each other.

For those of you who have watched How I Met Your Father, there is this episode called “Pathetic Dierdre” and honestly it’s one of my favorite episodes. Maybe because Sophie and Valentina in that episode have big Sandhya and Katie energy. I want to clarify that we are very pro-women and we are very supportive and want women to be successful, so please don’t cancel me/us based on this post.

The premise of the episode is that Sophie and Valentina are feeling insecure about their lives because their careers are not going as well as they had hoped and so they decided to reach out to a friend from college who they called “Pathetic Dierdre” (clip included) who they used throughout the years to be a little ego boost because of her “horrible life.” Of course, (#spoilers) Sophie and Valentina track her down and she has published a self-help book where she mentions both of them and says that they’re “toxic” and they were instead her pathetic friends and made her feel better about her life. It’s a whole thing.

Back to the notion that Katie and I support women — of course we do! And we don’t have a Pathetic Dierdre equivalent in our lives — we love all our friends and they’re all amazing and doing amazing things. Of course… today, we were both “Pathetic Dierdre.”

On the drive there, Katie and I stopped by Target cause ya girl is a procrastinator and needed to buy a card, but we were both like “Hopefully there are mimosas.” So that’s us, classically daydreaming about day-drinking while our wholesome friends advance their lives. Then we get to the house and we see cute couples getting out of their cars and Katie and I are like “Oh shit. let’s uh.. wait here for a few minutes.” So of course we spied on this one couple until they entered the house and we didn’t have to make awkward small talk or introduce ourselves to them, and then I scurried over to the house. Katie looked very baby-shower ready and I somehow subscribed to this new mob wife trend without realizing I was subscribing to it. I entered her house with 4-inch heels and a faux fur coat that a few of my friends said is my “I have money and am smoking a cigarette in my husband’s fancy house” coat. To be fair, I was wearing a coral dress underneath it to celebrate “baby girl” vibes.

All in all, it was a really sweet party. Like I said, the mom-to-be is the sweetest person on the planet and I wish her nothing but the best, and also know she’s going to be the best mom of all time, and her husband is definitely going to be the king of the dad jokes (he’s already kind of there hahaha). So once Katie and I got over the fact that we were overly excited about winning three Starbucks gift cards (congrats Katie on your double win), having an omelet and Belgian waffle station (!!!), and getting a little power-crazy when the parents-to-be asked us to suggest names for their future daughter (I think we suggested 12 names all together…), it was actually the perfect way to spend a Saturday morning. So Katie, thank you for being the Sophie to my Valentina, the Morgan to my Audrey, and the Eleanor to my Devi.

Maybe sometimes it’s like: damn look at our silly little markers while we have friends that are actually bringing life into this world, but for every amazing mom-to-be, she needs two Target-obsessed friends who will go and buy onesies and cute shoes for her daughter.

Until next time!

xo

Sandhya

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