Hello Rockstars!

From February 2 to February 5, I went to Punta Cana for a bachelorette party for one of my high school friends and it was a blast! – T-minus 129 days until the wedding!! It was my first time in DR and it was the perfect wholesome girls weekend, and also the warmth and escape from work that I needed. Now, I could 100% show you all the amazing pictures from DR, but I’ll share those on Instagram later. 

Those of you who have been following this blog for a while, know that it started off as a travel blog and while I’d someday like to get back to that, it’s lately become a “what’s going on in Sandhya’s life now?” blog. 

There were three quotes I had recently seen on Instagram that I really loved:

“You will never know if something is meant for you if you don’t give it a proper chance. Whether it’s a new relationship, a new job, a new city, or a new experience, throw yourself into it completely and don’t hold back. If it doesn’t work out then it wasn’t meant for you and you’ll walk away without regret, knowing you put your whole heart into it. That’s all you can ever do. It’s a horrible feeling leaving a situation knowing that you should have and could have done more. So find the courage to take that chance, find the inspiration to make your next move, and once you do, pour your heart into it and don’t look back.”

“You can wait forever. What isn’t right for you will never remain in your life. There is no job, person, or city that you can force to be right for you if it is not, though you can pretend for a while. The truth is that what is right for you will come to you and stay with you and won’t stray from you for long. The truth is that when something is right for you, it brings you clarity, and when something is wrong for you, it brings you confusion.”

The third one I’ve been searching for for hours of little avail. Now, I’m going to misquote it. The post was about how it’s funny when you stop talking to someone then you stop seeing them – even if they live in the same city as you. And that’s because your lives don’t align anymore. So maybe earlier you would change your schedule or they would change theirs to match yours, but now that you don’t talk, or hang out, or consider yourself friends anymore, you both revert to your own timetables. I’m completely misquoting and ruining the eloquent post about it, and I can’t remember if the point was 1) how it’s amazing that people have such a lasting impact on us without us realizing, or 2) how even after people leave our lives, even if we didn’t think we’d ever recover, life goes on. Maybe if I found the post again then I’d actually be able to reflect accurately on it. 

That being said, I’ve been thinking a lot about these quotes over the last few days. 

Missed Connection

This is my take on a missed connection column

It all started Friday when I met the potential LOML (love of my life) at the Club Oro in Punta Cana. We somehow started dancing (though I don’t remember how?) and we were even wearing matching blue and white striped shirts (fate???) Real talk – do you know how rare it is to find a tall, attractive man who enjoys dancing, and is respectful the whole time? (In a world of boys, he’s a gentleman). Of course, my flight-fight-freeze energy kicked in when he said “Have a drink with me” and I stupidly said no even though I was having fun and wanted to. I used my friend’s bachelorette as an excuse to walk away, and I feel absolutely silly about it – this man could have literally been the love of my life. 

If any of you have seen the movie “Anyone But You” (which I recently extensively blogged about and am about to give #spoilers to), Bea has this perfect wholesome night with this man Ben, and in the morning she leaves while he’s sleeping, which she immediately regrets and asks herself “why am I doing this??” After leaving, she decides to go back to his apartment, but when she returns, she finds him ranting about her to his best friend and proceeds to sadly walk away. The real spoiler is a few months later when he asks her (cause duh, they reunited cause duh, meet-cute and meant-to-be) why she left, and her reply is beautiful and perfectly captures me in every moment: “It was the first time in my life I felt fire, and I had to blow it out.”

Now, dancing with this guy was not the first time I felt fire, but I definitely felt the need to blow it out – maybe because I was scared or maybe because I’m a hopeless romantic (or as my friend pointed out today, probably both since they’re interconnected). 

I’ve been really upset about it though. I’ve been telling all my friends (and anyone at work who will listen) “I think I met the LOML on Friday.” Most of them tell me to shrug it off, but here’s the thing… I have to try posting about it because I need to be able to walk away from this weekend knowing I did everything I could have. So here goes:

Hey, it’s me, the girl in the white and blue striped tie top and white shorts who was at Club Oro in Punta Cana on Friday, February 2. I wish I could tell you what time it was, but I didn’t check. I wish I could tell you what songs we were dancing to, but I can’t remember. I do remember you were in the VIP section and I was on the main dance floor with my friends. I think you were with your friends too but I honestly didn’t even notice. You were wearing a white and blue shirt and had glasses and were incredibly kind and a fantastic dancer. If there is any way that you are seeing this post, then let me know. I don’t know your name, or where you’re from, or what you do for a living, or who you are. I’m just a hopeless romantic girl and I think sometimes if you believe that magic happens, and believe that the universe will bring to you what you want, that it happens. 

And you know what, maybe you’re the person that the universe wants me to find. So even though part of me wants to leave it to the universe to bring you back into my life, I feel like I have to do my part and post about it.  (A message in a bottle is all I can do… Standing here, hoping it gets to you…)

So that’s it. Most of my friends think I’m silly, a hopeless romantic, and wasting my time. We were playing this game on Sunday where you pick up cards from a deck that says “give this card to whoever [insert description here]” and among others, I got: “Give this card to whoever is a hopeless romantic” and a slightly meaner one “Give this card to whoever’s most likely to marry an aspiring musician who actually sucks.” Both of those are true – I am a hopeless romantic and I do tend to believe in people and see the best in people if I care about them. 

18 hours ago, these felt like weaknesses. But as my best friend Katie just told me: “If you have a really truly beautiful strength, it’s going to be the same thing that people get on your case about. It’s really nice that you’re a sensitive person with a romantic mindset in a cruel world. You still have hope for something really magical.”

So here it is, let’s see if it’s meant to be… and if not, well, onto the next fire 🙂 

xo

Sandhya

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